Digest back home and not following the husband "the willow wind you Shua la la la la la la -- left a chicken, the right hand a duck, who was carrying a baby fat ah, EE well Hello!" the joyful humorous folk song in Hebei out of the small daughter-in-law took the children back to mother's mood, but the bride home was not so good, the new daughter-in-law must hold a point, to comply with many taboos! New daughter-in-law "back home" is also called "back door", called "mothering". Answer the door there is a time limit, married daughter spilled water, married to the husband's family is the family man, can't walk away. Henan area, avoid it, lunar January day, Lantern Festival back home. It is not women, women do not Jizao, home is not in this day is called the girl answers the door; married to her husband put her things in the first place, the Lunar New Year's Day is the beginning of the year, natural inconvenience to return home; Lantern Festival is the first full moon day of the year, the new wife back home, the husband's family not happy, is not good. It is generally lunar January back home on the 2nd, lunar January sixteen back home to take care of the marriage, both sides happy reunion. Henan Luyi "lunar January sixteen please (girl), February two to send, life is not ill". Zhejiang to avoid the bride in the winter solstice festival back. Otherwise thought will die grams of the husband's parents. As the saying goes: "Niang house winter, the husband's family go to a public." Jiangsu also have this custom, however, for different reasons, that is the winter solstice in the home, the home will therefore consist in the decline. The new daughter-in-law take two, hurt which head is not good, so try it. Taiwan Taipei a year a mothering, generally in the lunar January. Back to avoid encounter family cooking fire. The case is that life will not and parents, is about Lenovo to "fire" contains "angry" and "fire" mean. Some local Zhejiang women's life make the so-called "broken home" superstition. This woman, can not be in the home on the car, get married by the groom's family go out with women, the woman clothed in rags, posing as a beggar appearance, dress up chair in the temple, called "borrow". Nvgu parents relatives must hide away, all by the husband home care. After one hundred and twenty days, can be on the. Otherwise, the home will be broken or suffering. And the so-called "life made from Ke" (husband and wife discrete) and "back Paul" (by fire), but also in four months, even after three years in order to answer the door. Henan Lin County, the bride three days back to go down that road bridal walk, the so-called "three days without the two way". Yi back to avoid the bride and groom talk on the way, two people like stranger in general. Back the gifts the Central Plains area, should be in pairs, avoid singular. Not all accept gifts home, back to the husband's family, but also to take back a part. General a full month, marriage can be freely. Back in the days when the bride, her family lived quite stress. Henan proverb cloud: "eight to eight, two hair", "nine of nine, there are two". It is said that on the eighth mothering can live at the home of eight days, the ninth day of mothering can live at the home of nine days. So, for the benefit of both men and women two, otherwise it is not good. However, there are not at home eight days say, the so-called: "seven not eight, lived eight poor maiden." China Bouyei, Pumi, Zhuang, Miao, Dong, Li, Tibetan and other many peoples, and married the bride does not fall the family customs, taboo bride married she husband. Guangdong Shunde women's Knot "Jinlan deed", Buyi "false housing", "for many times, Pumi" Miao "cooking", Mulao "go daughter-in-law road" custom is the custom taboo custom. "Dushan state records" record the Customs said: "marry...... The bride and her husband not meet tomorrow morning, carrying out drain urn, ladder upstairs, with the group a bridal women together. After transplanting date receives Wo in JapanLive in his house, night and sister-in-law homoclinic, not one or two days to. About three five years before the intersection, after birth in Xie Lao." "Tuyun history" also said: "(the Buyi wedding) three, spouse and relatives and return, is back. More than a year or a few months before returning to a home." Why don't the husband of a variety of claims. One is the apparent sex life for shame. Not only the husband's family, marriage is not consummate, returned home and sisters also check Jen, if who with her husband with a bed, female companion isolate her, called her "smelly man". We have a previous engagement to two, together with the husband's family, taboo others separate husband's family, such as the "ten sisters", "sister," Jinlan intimates "will" and other folk organization is so. The three is for the freedom to the pursuit of life. Not only in the marital home, holidays and busy when in her husband's house for short stay, the rest of the time is still home. During this period, the bride with production, life and social freedom in the home can. For example, the bride is not the husband shall enjoy the "man with no blood relationship Fangliao" freedom; Buyi bride also has a "rush" (in the market when young men and women in love) free; Guangxi Longlin Zhuang bride is entitled to participate in "Song Ping" freedom and cultivate a land rights. The four is to ensure to carry on the family name. For example, Yi married bride is still home, until the birth of a child to his house, to the family to live. If long marriage sterility, the man that she can't reproduce, to divorce. Not following the husband customs popular areas, many women married for a few years and still a virgin, many due to boredom and Dutch act. According to anthropologists, the mid twentieth Century Fujian Huian area there are women and the collective Dutch act. Not following the husband is the dual marriage a wedding to monogamy transition residue, reflects the matrilineal system of patriarchy was tenacious resistance. If the bride and groom together back at home, avoid custom. Manchu permit son-in-law live in West Kang Xi Kang, is offering ancestral spirits of place, taboo master and girls. Which sex is not clean, will be sacrilegious idea; sexual behavior "suffer", the psychological unbearable emotional conflict; and her husband, not a descent, cannot provide places for the taboo on the husband's family in the home, thought the girl in her pregnancy, will be her "human potential", "wealth" to the family's home to home, leading to decline, so the absolute taboo the couple at the home of her. However, there are also many places is not taboo newlyweds in her bed. Sometimes, the different customs will coexist within the same county, Henan forest county is so. The bride wedding, identity has changed, people are people, so the home is often "against her". The married daughter returned home, taboo brush pot, otherwise, thought her wealth will be brushed away. Henan Xiuwu County have similar taboo. The local folk taboo out the girl touched, take her spoon and a fire. Said to be "touch the dead father-in-law, mother-in-law," dead "take fire the undead father-in-law died son-in-law". Also taboo to take her knife, scissors, taboo to catch her dogs and so on, said that "perhaps in the future to cut the family relationship, bite opening". In a word is to prevent the girl to marry again use or take home. The bride in her mothering, avoid to encounter not liking things one one said to the family to listen to, and not returned to the husband's family, the parents do not exist to pour Po family listening. Such "parroting" results will often cause trouble, affect the relationship between the two men, the bride will be charged a "garrulous midwife" reputation. Thus the vulgar "will be when the daughter-in-law two hide, not when the daughter-in-law two pass" proverb. This is really a good experience is very valuable in the bride with affinity. Marry you in front of more than non - as the saying goes: "the widow is in front of more than." In fact, this is not the origin is not all lies in the widow, but often can see out from social discrimination to the widow. The widow for the loss of her husband and became more a kind of unfortunate women, like lost barrier homes, such as from the branches of the wave, the ability to resist distractions, resist in the reduced a lot, and why bother asking for trouble? The patriarchal society that doesn't really want to self cleaning, pour out in disregard of their pain.......
I like life, Nothing is too strange. However, folk taboo, often to call it in question, this is strange about it, is its uniqueness, scholars called "implicit culture". A party of people, due to the common taboo, do not do something, do not say some words, no behavior, how were observed only in the heart fandigu,? What idea is there? Difficult, indeed is difficult, but the approach is still there. Light look not to come out, then use the mouth to glance over things hurriedly; no, it in-depth field. Customs must inherit, taboo change; comparative, longitudinal study. The dream may not be the degree of prospecting, the heart? So, scholars to the whims of the three turn, seven pound, on their census, Lala, not how many times, he put Chinese folk taboo for a big basket, keep on repeating at great length data, monographs, taboo gate again also does not close, taboo research also gradually in-depth, Wei spectacular. The general theory of taboo, here no longer say, one important progress to say a few words. That is the essence of knowledge about taboos. Now the foreign one view: taboo "that cannot be clearly divided into a pole two opposing things in".
Holy / widdy unclean / woman is trouble exposed / male not female navel, not exposed skin tattoos / attack and protect hair / fear / witchcraft sex male female differences, in this section the incest / totem relics Bu marriage / character with the zodiac marriage / sedan chair and red hijab bridal chamber / not haunted back / back home and not following the husband remarried / widow is in front of the non sexual / health and abstinence pregnant / don't disturb the fetus fetal education / heart to God to delivery / a matter of life and death. The baby / offend and asylum Godson / not taught, the father of the clothing / level identification and Prevention Association (diet / a) hunger breeds discontentment (two) can not satisfy living / shigandang Taishan travel / Zu Daobao peace terms to show respect / taboo language / (a) taboo to do (two) renamed to Ji was resting / regard death as life buried / bliss and later time / memory family ritual taboo Spring Festival / careful Guo Danian the farming season / pray on weather Dragon Boat / obstacle Wudu humorous people / worshiped and joking taboo exorcise evils @##@ / no restrictions of any kind. Taboo carefully conceal mentioning, everywhere. The whole body, speech and deportment, weddings and funerals, sickness and death, basic necessities of life, there have been invisible to restrain it. However, the mysterious, charismatic taboo is not omnipotent, how many taboos, folk can create many averting measures.
The elephant is preferred, Nothing is too strange. However, folk taboo often to call it in question, this is strange about it, is its uniqueness, scholars called "implicit culture". A party of people, due to the common taboo, do not do something, do not say some words, no behavior, how were observed only in the heart fandigu,? What method? Difficult, is really difficult to some, but the approach is still there. Light look not to come out, then use the mouth to glance over things hurriedly; no, it in-depth field. Customs must inherit, taboo change; comparative, longitudinal study. The dream may not be the degree of prospecting, the heart? So, folklore scholars to the whims of the three turn, seven pound, on their census, Lala, not how many times, he put Chinese folk taboo for a big basket of materials, monographs, keep on repeating at great length. Taboo also does not close the door again, taboo research also gradually in-depth, Wei spectacular. The general theory of taboo, here no longer say, one important progress to say a few words. That is the essence of knowledge about taboos. Now the foreign one view: taboo "that cannot be clearly divided into a pole two opposing things in". This view is in progress, is also very interesting, although this it is our ancestors said "strange things", but we always from the supernatural to blame Wang Chong, such as "Lun Heng" cloud: "article four taboo, taboo is not a ghost, will support, if it is death, then the world credit out of fear." And now this argument, but in turn blamed it on their own, from the self understanding for reasons, so it is the progress of the. This understanding not only to identify the taboo, also identify the taboo behavior. Pointed out the people in not clear judgment whether the results of benefit or harm, then easily lead to formation of taboo, taboo customs. This is from the height of philosophy of understanding things superiority, it generalized force is powerful, but also more scientific. Therefore, folklore requires its prospect and profound understanding, it is must be speculative in nature, and is not just a palmHolding fact loyal attitude can be competent for discipline. Folk taboo, content rich, there are many aspects, we have not yet entered, or simply to contact some fur, said in this booklet. It pointed out that there is more, so, some of it, some random talk doesn't care, comprehensive, and some are even biased or wrong, hope the reader criticism. If it can understand China folk culture and customs to help the reader, it is the hope of the course.
"Taboos": Chinese Folk Culture Series
In 1990, the folklore monograph "my Chinese folk taboo" the Writers Publishing House, then Hanchen Culture Co. Ltd. published traditional this in Taiwan, Huashan literature and Art Publishing House published book, the total volume reached 100000 copies, a better evaluation in the academic circles, a year ago won the "prize two China folk literature and art Shanhua prize and academic book prize". However, the book is quite professional, 50 words of the capacity is beyond the general readers, so often have to publish a drawdown in this idea, because of various reasons, several attempts fail, then into the heart. The beginning of Tianjin People's publishing house, close to my original intention, so they decided to do it. Who wanted to, it is not so simple, it is not use your scissors, cutting and pasting will be finished, all have to start, but also have great improvement on language, to fit the new groups of readers. I have some embarrassed, afraid to be useless, fear effect is in the process of research project, want to beat a retreat. At this time, Ms. Han Yuxia and Mr. Chen Yimin timely enlighten me, encourage me, makes me to continue to persist, completed the long cherished wish. This was the occasion, I would like to Tianjin People's publishing house especially Ms. Han, Mr. Chen expressed heartfelt thanks.
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